Critical Condition

tough love is one thing

but it can lead down a slippery slope to abusiveness

when we love someone very strongly, we want to see that person perform at his highest

and we become very passionately driven to make that happen

when we want something so badly, and we don't see it happen, we often become very frustrated and impatient and push harder, not from a place of love, but from a place of contempt

and rather than motivating our loved one, we begin to break that person down

judgment and condemnation create an environment of shame and insecurity, which impedes one's ability to advance himself

an atmosphere of patience and unconditional loving support is conducive to the development of the confidence and drive necessary to achieve

lesson: push forward, not downward.

I appreciate you foolish mistakes